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How Text Messaging Can Help to Improve Your Sex Life

Are you looking for an easy, yet unique way to improve your sex life or even just your relationship in general?  If you are, do you and your partner own and use cell phones?  If so, improving your relationship through the use of text messages is a fun and creative, yet unique approach to take.  If you haven’t already tired this approach, you should.

As nice as it is to hear that text messaging can help to improve your communication or your sex life, you may be looking for more information.  First, you may be wondering if it is really possible to do.  Can a simple text message ignite passion in your relationship?  Yes, it can.  In fact, you may be surprised just how much passion can be ignited.  Please continue reading on for more information on just how it can and should be done.

For starters, do you have any sexual fantasies or desires that you would like to see transformed into reality?  Are you bored with your current level of intimacy and would like to make changes?  If so, you need to speak with your partner.  Unfortunately, this is often a lot easier said than done for some men and women.  You should have no problem talking to your partner about intimacy, but the subject may be one that makes you feel uncomfortable.  If that is the case, text messaging may be an easy approach to take. The ability to mask yourself behind a cell phone may provide you with a certain level of comfort and peace of mind. 

In addition to using text messages as a way to improve your communication and your sex life, you can and should use it as a form of foreplay.  Unfortunately, many individuals make the mistake of assuming that foreplay can only happen in the bedroom, but it doesn’t have to be that way.  Is your partner on their way home from work?  Are you in the mood for intimacy?  If you are, send them a few sexy, seductive, and suggestive text messages. In a few creative words, let them know that you are at home waiting for them and ready for an adventure.

As romantic and as adventurous as using a cell phone to add new life to your intimacy can be, it is also important to proceed with caution.  There are a few important dos and don’t that you first need to know.  Do not send sexy or seductive text messages to a family cell phone.  A family cell phone can be defined as one that all members of the family uses, like one that your son or daughter may borrow.  These types of text messages are and should be private.  Also, avoid sending text messages to work issued cell phones.  Often times, text messages are not allow, but they may also be viewed by others.

In addition to spicing up your current relationship or marriage, text messages can also be used as a way to court new partners.  Did you just recently get the phone number of a nice and attractive man or woman at a bar or party?  If you did, send them a flirty text message.  For many, sending a text message is a lot easier than placing an actual phone call.  When first making contact, be sure to use caution and your best judgment.  Do not go overboard or be too sexy or seductive.  There is a better time and place for these types of messages.  Speaking of that time and place, wait until after you have received a response back or until after your first real date.

As a recap, text messaging is a unique, fun, and creative way to improve your sex life.  If you and your partner own cell phones, start using them today.  You may be more than pleased with the results.  As a reminder, text messages can also be used to get the communication started in a new relationship.

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets.
100 Great Sex Games For Couples By Michael Webb, Relationship Expert.

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Do You Have a Happy Sex Life?  Signs That You May

Many couples are often curious about their sex life and how it compares to the sex life of others. In all honesty, you are able to determine, on your own, if your sex life is good, happy, and healthy.  With that said, there are some common signs that you may want to look for.  These signs, a few of which are outlined below, often signal a happy and healthy sex life.  Are you receiving the ultimate level of satisfaction?

Sign #1 – You Have a Healthy Relationship

Couples who have a healthy relationship use communication with each other and often.  They are able to let their partners know when something is bothering them. Each partner understands that their relationship involves two fully committed individuals.  Couples with happy and healthy sex lives often do not have unrealistic expectations or make excess demands on their partners.

Sign #2 – Experimentation in the Bedroom

Experimenting in the bedroom is another sign that you may have a happy and healthy sex life.  Of course, this does not mean that you and your partner have to become the next big adult movie stars, but experimentation can improve your sex life significantly.  It is also important to remember that experimentation comes in a number of different formats.  It can be something as simple as having sex at a different time of the day, in a different part of the house, or extended foreplay sessions. Fantasies and fetishes are fun and okay, but only if both parties agree to them.  Be sure to consult with your partner before going “overboard.”

Sign #3 – Sex is Given Freely

In many relationships, especially long-term relationships, sex can be seen as a chore.  This isn’t how it should be.  Sex should be something that you and your partner want, not a responsibility that needs to be fulfilled.  If you and your partner are open to both spontaneously engaging in the act, you may have a happy and healthy sex life.  When you have sex because you want to, as opposed to because it is your “job,” maximum benefit and pleasure is achieved.

Sign #4 – Sex Becomes a Regular Part of the Relationship

It is no secret that having an active sexual relationship can be difficult.  With raising families, working, and other common duties, sex can often take a back seat.  Another sign that you may have a happy and healthy sex life is if you don’t let your day to day responsibilities and duties get in the way of having sex.  Regardless of how busy you are, if you still find time to have sex with your partner, you have a healthy sex life.  Just be sure to remember that sex doesn’t have to be scheduled.  In fact, spontaneous sex can do wonders for a relationship.

Sign #5 – Sex is more than Just an Act

Contrary to what most people believe, sex is more than just having intercourse.  An important component of having a happy and healthy sex life is that of engaging in foreplay.  Foreplay can be something as simple as holding hands or giving a relaxing massage.  Love notes, kind gestures, and doing something that your partner may not expect on a daily basis are all easy ways to keep your partner interested in you, both emotionally and physically.  You have a healthy and happy sex life when the romance continues on long past intercourse has come to an end.

So, do you have a happy and healthy sex life?  If a number of the above mentions signs describes your relationship with your significant other, there is a good chance that you do. 

Even if you have a happy and healthy sex life now, it is important to remember that things may change.  Remember that as time passes, it may be easier to let sex impact your relationship negatively.  Be sure to always keep an open line of communication with your partner, especially where sex and their needs are concerned.

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets.
100 Great Sex Games For Couples By Michael Webb, Relationship Expert.

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Does Your Sex Life Need Improving: Signs That It May

Are you in a relationship?  If you are, are you currently happy, in terms of sex?  Of course, it is important to make sure that you and your partner get along, have a good time together outside of the bedroom, and do not argue, but intimacy should not be ignored.

To help you determine if your sex life needs improving, please continue reading on, as a few signs that it may are highlighted below.

You don’t have sex.  Not being intimate with your partner is a good sign that your sex life could use a makeover.  Before proceeding any farther, it is important to determine why you and your partner are not being intimate.  Do you not feel the need to be?  Is your work or family getting in the way?  Determining the route of your problem is the best way to fix it.

In keeping with not being sexually active, the same rules do not apply to you if you are not in a relationship.  If you are not in a relationship, but if you want to experience intimacy, there are a number of steps that you will want to take.  First, you will want to find someone who is compatible with you.  To do so, use an online dating service, a speed dating service, or ask someone that you know to set you up on a date.

If you do have sex, how often do you have it?  Not being intimate with your partner enough is another sign that your sex life may need improving.  When determining what is the appropriate amount of times to be intimate, you will find that it depends.  A number of factors, like your children and your work schedule, should be taken into consideration.  With that said, learn how to make time for intimacy, as it is an important component of having a healthy and happy relationship.

Another common sign that your intimacy may need improving is if the sex that you do have is dull, boring, and no longer exciting.  Once it becomes a chore to you or it seems like a responsibility that you must perform, action should be taken.  To have a happy and healthy relationship, intimacy is important.  With that being said, not just any intimacy will do.  You should get excited about going to the bedroom with your partner and you should end the event satisfied.

If you and your partner are growing distant, it could be a sign that your sex life needs to improve.  Why?  As previously stated, intimacy is an important component of having a healthy relationship.  Although a relationship should not revolve around sex, it should be an important part of it.  If you and your partner are growing distant, consider using the bedroom to make improvements. When you do so, you may end up seeing the rest of your relationship properly fall into place.

If any of the above mentioned signs or situations apply to you and your love life, you may need to make a few changes. The good news is that it is easy to go about doing so.  If you can’t seem to find the time to be intimate with your partner, make time, even if you must stay up later or get up earlier.  If your sexual encounters are dull and boring, consider experimenting.  A new position or the use of sex toys may be just what your relationship needs.

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets.
100 Great Sex Games For Couples By Michael Webb, Relationship Expert.

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5 Easy Ways for Parents to Spice Up The Intimacy

Are you married?  If you are, are you also a parent?   If you are married and a parent, how is your sex life?  Depending on the age of your children and the size of your family, it might not be great.  Many parents wish that they had a better level of intimacy with their partner and on more occasions.  If you are one of those individuals, there are a number of steps that you will want to take.

When it comes to intimacy in a relationship, it is important to remember that more than the bedroom and sex is and should be involved.  Does your intimacy only get started when you climb into bed?  If so, there may lay the problem. 

If you are a parent, you will want to consider using the service of a babysitter.  This will enable you and your spouse to get out of the house and enjoy time alone.  In fact, you can even have a “real,” date.  Go to dinner and a movie with your spouse.  Unfortunately, many married couples find themselves entering into a comfort zone that results in their relationship feeling more like a friendship than a marriage.  Do not let your relationship get to this point.  Dating is a nice and easy way to prevent that from happening.

In addition to hiring a babysitter, rely on a trusted friend or family member.  What is nice about taking this approach is the comfort level.  Instead of picking a babysitter out of a phone book, you are entrusting the care of your children into someone that you know and trust.  This alone can result in you having a better time on a date.  You may also feel more comfortable leaving your children with a trusted friend or relative overnight, as opposed to an unknown babysitter.  What does this mean?  It means that in addition to enjoying a traditional date, you may also enjoy a nice, sexual night of privacy, possibly at a nice hotel.

In keeping with childcare that will allow you and your spouse to spend some romantic, intimate, and quality time together, consider approaching other parents.  Do you know the parents of your children’s friends?  If you do, consider making a monthly arrangement with them.  Let them keep your kids for one night and you can do the same for them.  This approach is nice, as you are likely to feel comfortable living your children in the care of another parent.  Also, remember that all parents find it difficult to seek privacy and intimacy.  You may be doing the other set of parents a huge favor.

As important as dating is and can be to your relationship, be realistic.  Not every night can be a date night.  With that said, there are still ways that you can be romantic and intimate with your spouse at home.  For example, sneak in a few hugs and kisses here and here.  When your wife is cooking dinner, walk up to her, rub her back, and plant a kiss on her.  When your husband is walking past you, stop him and give him a quick kiss.  A simple kiss is enough to show your partner that you care and want to be intimate with him, without making your children, who may be watching, feel uncomfortable or out of place.

Another unique and creative way to keep the romance and intimacy alive when you may be unable to have sex or go on a date is the use of text messages.  Do you and your spouse have and use cell phones?  If you do, send them a sexy and seductive text message.  Let them know that you can’t wait until they arrive home.  Even if your partner is sitting across the room from them, send them a quick message.  If you do not own or use a cell phone, know that a handwritten love note can be just as effective.

As you can see, there are a number of ways that you, as parents, can still have a happy and healthy sex life.  Implement a few of these steps to help keep your relationship and its romance alive and well.

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets.
100 Great Sex Games For Couples By Michael Webb, Relationship Expert.

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4 Ways to Improve Your Intimacy with Your Wife

Are you married?  If so, you likely love your wife, right?  Despite a deep and intense love for your wife, you may still want to see an improvement in your intimacy.  After all, what man doesn’t want good sex? 

If you want to improve your intimacy with your wife, it is important to know that you have a number of different options.  Unfortunately, many men automatically start think of the bedroom. Yes, you do want to “wow,” your wife in the bedroom, but that is not all that sex and intimacy is about.  In fact, that is where many marriages go wrong.  Too much focus is placed on the sex or the lack of it. 

To help you properly improve your intimacy with your wife, please continue reading on.  A few easy to implement, yet successful approaches are highlighted below for your convenience.

1 – Date Her

How long have you been married?  If you have been married for a number of years now, do you honestly remember when your last “real,” date was.  Unfortunately, many men underestimate the power of a date. You will not want to make this mistake.  If you opt just for the sex, your wife may start to feel like it is her responsibility to please you and this is not how a relationship should work.

To not only improve your satisfaction in the bed, but to improve your wife’s satisfaction, take her out on a date.  Many times, getting out of the house is enough to bring new excitement into a relationship.  For the best level of success, choose a romantic date theme, such as a fancy dinner, a romantic movie, or a night at a nice hotel.

2 – Compliment Her

When is the last time that you have paid your wife a truly nice and unique compliment?  If it has been a while, it is time for you to start again.  Is your wife wearing a new outfit?  Has she recently started a weight loss plan?  Did your wife get her hair cut?  If so, be sure to compliment her.  Complimenting your wife on her appearance will increase her self-confidence.  This, in turn, can improve experiences in the bedroom.

As important as it is to compliment your wife on her appearance, it is also important to remember to compliment her on other areas of your relationship.  Do you notice that the house is clean?  Has your wife prepared a nice dinner?  If so, thank her for the job well done.  This will not only help to improve your relationship in general, but it can have an impact on your experiences in the bedroom.

3 – Seduce Her

What is sex like in your home?  Does it occur like clockwork?  Do you actually take the time to ask your wife if she wants to have sex?  If so, try to refrain from doing so.  Yes, you may be rejected, due to a headache or being tired, but why not take the chance?  Be spontaneous.  Seduce your wife.  Make her want to have sex with you.

4 – Fulfill Her Fantasies

In keeping with seducing your wife, let her know that you want to fulfill her fantasies.  It may take your wife a few times to open up about what she likes or fantasizes about sexually, but the information will likely come out soon.  Give it your all to fulfill your wife’s sexual fantasies.  It is also important to note that afterwards is the perfect time to share your fantasies and sexual desires with your wife.  In end, you may all end up being much more pleased.

As you can see, there are a number of different ways that you can go about improving the intimacy in your relationship.  Please remember, however, that you want to get started in someplace other than the bedroom.  Sex in a marriage is about more and should be more than just the act itself.  Taking the time to date and compliment your wife will more than pay off in the end.

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets.
100 Great Sex Games For Couples By Michael Webb, Relationship Expert.

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5 Signs Your Sex Life May Need a Makeover

Are you in a relationship? If you are especially if you are in a long term relationship, are you happy with the amount of intimacy and sex that you receiving? Or are you unsure? For a large number of woman and man this question might a lot more difficult than it looks at first.
In case you are unsure as to if your sex life is good or not, it might be time for you to find the answer. For the simple reason because if you are pleased with the amount of intimacy you receive in your relationship, you should be telling this to your partner on occasion. And in doing so it will help your relationship to improve. But if you are unhappy or not pleased with the amount of intimacy you receiving it may be the right time to make some changes, for example come up with something to experiment with in the bedroom or something else you know both of you will enjoy.
So if you what to have a great sex life? To help yet an answer to that question I have outlined five easy signs that your sex life might need improving.
Sign One – You Finding Sex Boring
For many couples, especially if the once in a long term relationship, they get to the point where sex stops being fun. The question you need to consider is Does sex seems more like a chore or work for you now? Having intimacy with your partner should never be a responsibility that needs to be fulfilled. It should be fun and exciting experience every time.
How often do you delay going to bed with your partner because of the fear of being intimate or do you often just reject intimacy with your partner? If the answers are yes then your sex life needs a change or an improvement.
Sign Two – You Are Left Feeling Unsatisfied
Think about this for a second when you get intimate with your partner do you get maximum satisfaction? If the answer is no then you sex life might be in trouble. This happens more often with woman then man. In some cases woman may find it difficult to get maximum pleasure in the bedroom. But you should know that it is possible all you have to do is to offer suggestions to your partner or guide them towards what would satisfy you the most. Whatever you do if you care about the relationship you should act right away as relationships in which only one person is pleased are destine to fail in a long run.
Sign three – Sex Feels like a Responsibility or a Chore
I have mentioned earlier that being intimate with your partner should be a fun and exciting experience and should not feel like a responsibility or a chore if it starts to feel like that it time to take an immediate action as it may lead to a breakdown in a relationship. One thing you can do is to be spontaneous consider initiating sex yourself instead of waiting for your partner to start. Another thing you can do is to spice up your intimacy by experimenting, maybe with new positions or maybe just have relations at a different time or place. Whatever you do make sure you do something as the longer you wait the harder it will be to recover. Make sure that you do not let the relationship to fail because of something you can easily prevent.
Sign four – You Just Don’t Have It
The main point of have a good sex life is first you must be having sex. The question is, are you having it? When you are in a relationship you should be. Whether you having it with your partner on daily basis or even once a week you still should be having it. As this is an important part in the relationship to bring two people closer and not just in a physical sense.
In case you not in a relationship this should not mean that you should not get the opportunity to have intimacy with another person. You should take some steps towards feeling needed and wanted and loved. This might even involve just visiting a bar and having a casual relationship or you may consider using an online dating service.
Sign five –Relationship Is Failing
Now think about this question Do you and your partner spending a lot of time having arguments? If the answer is yes then your relationship probably is in trouble. Arguing about different topics like work, money, friends, and not just intimacy potentially is the result of the lack of intimacy in your relationship. Did you know that couples who are happy in the bedroom are most often happy outside the bedroom as well. The two usually go hand in hand.
Think about it do you have a healthy and happy intimate life with your partner? In case you are not just remember that there are a number of simple steps you can take to improve it and it will also generally will improve your overall relationship with your partner.
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100 Great Sex Games For Couples By Michael Webb, Relationship Expert.

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How Simple Dates Can Improve Your Intimacy

Romance and love are two most important parts of an intimate relationship. When you looking to develop a new relationship or maintain an existing one of the most important steps in that process is dating. The problem is as time goes by many couples enter into a comfort zone. The comfort zone often has a major negative impact on relationship or marriage. Make sure you do not let it have this impact on your relationship.

In order to stop you and your partner falling into earlier mentioned comfort area where dating becomes a thing of the past you need some knowledge on how to do it so you can avoid it. It is really valuable to never underestimate the power of a simple date. A date on a regular basis can easily reignite the spark in the relationship. It can bring back the romance and intimacy back into the relationship. In case you are not in a serious relationship right now you still should not underestimate the importance of dating. Dating is an easy and quite an important way to learn about your potential partner and start building a relationship.

If you are married or in a long term relationship, dating is one of the most important things you can do to keep your relationship alive and well. In fact dating not only can keep your relationship alive but it can help to save a failing relationship or marriage. This does not mean at all that each date has to be romantic one or that you have to spend lots of money to impress your partner. Often just spending quality alone time with your partner can be sufficient to keep the romance alive. You don’t have to go out on a date every day, but you should know that having a date with your partner on a constant basis will help to ensure that romance and love will remain a big part of the relationship.

There are a number of reasons why dating is important in a long term relationships and marriage. Dating prevents your partner making assumptions as an example of this you partner may believe that you are ashamed of your relationship and you do not what it to show in public or you don’t want be seen with your partner in public. Skipping dating in a long term relationship or marriage you cause you partner to feel like you do not care anymore or not enjoying their company. Absence of dating in a relationship can also cause boredom which potentially can result in a breakdown of the relationship.

In order to keep you relationship alive and strong you would want to make a commitment to have regular dates and alone activities with your partner. Some examples of such dates can be a movie night, a dinner, a walk on a beach, etc but it is also good if you can think of something out of ordinary once in a while to create romance and keep the flame going or to reignite the spark in the relationship.

As I previously mentioned try and come up with out of ordinary dates once in a while. Unique experience will easily bring more romance and will improve the intimacy between you and your partner. Consider spending a weekend away in a nice hotel, go for romantic adventures like horse riding, hot air balloon flight etc. This sort of activities will make the sparks fly in your relationship, creative and unusual dates are often romantic and exciting.

If you and your partner have kids, you may know that dating can be quite complicated as you also want to spend time with kids as well but you should know that dating is still quite possible and very important to your relationship. It is can be quite difficult to get away without the kids but it is important you find a way to do so. There are a few options available to you, you can hire a babysitter or you can ask a family member to look after the kids for a number of hours. Going on dates when you have kids usually takes quite a bit of planning and organizing but believe me the effort in dong it is more than worth it. You relationship and intimacy will improve when you are able to spend quality alone time with your partner.

Just a quick summary dating is important as it can build and nourish your relationship. It will also improve intimacy between you and your partner and intimacy is a very important part of a healthy relationship. Just remember that a healthy relationship translates into more fun and love and passion.

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