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How Text Messaging Can Help to Improve Your Sex Life

Are you looking for an easy, yet unique way to improve your sex life or even just your relationship in general?  If you are, do you and your partner own and use cell phones?  If so, improving your relationship through the use of text messages is a fun and creative, yet unique approach to take.  If you haven’t already tired this approach, you should.

As nice as it is to hear that text messaging can help to improve your communication or your sex life, you may be looking for more information.  First, you may be wondering if it is really possible to do.  Can a simple text message ignite passion in your relationship?  Yes, it can.  In fact, you may be surprised just how much passion can be ignited.  Please continue reading on for more information on just how it can and should be done.

For starters, do you have any sexual fantasies or desires that you would like to see transformed into reality?  Are you bored with your current level of intimacy and would like to make changes?  If so, you need to speak with your partner.  Unfortunately, this is often a lot easier said than done for some men and women.  You should have no problem talking to your partner about intimacy, but the subject may be one that makes you feel uncomfortable.  If that is the case, text messaging may be an easy approach to take. The ability to mask yourself behind a cell phone may provide you with a certain level of comfort and peace of mind. 

In addition to using text messages as a way to improve your communication and your sex life, you can and should use it as a form of foreplay.  Unfortunately, many individuals make the mistake of assuming that foreplay can only happen in the bedroom, but it doesn’t have to be that way.  Is your partner on their way home from work?  Are you in the mood for intimacy?  If you are, send them a few sexy, seductive, and suggestive text messages. In a few creative words, let them know that you are at home waiting for them and ready for an adventure.

As romantic and as adventurous as using a cell phone to add new life to your intimacy can be, it is also important to proceed with caution.  There are a few important dos and don’t that you first need to know.  Do not send sexy or seductive text messages to a family cell phone.  A family cell phone can be defined as one that all members of the family uses, like one that your son or daughter may borrow.  These types of text messages are and should be private.  Also, avoid sending text messages to work issued cell phones.  Often times, text messages are not allow, but they may also be viewed by others.

In addition to spicing up your current relationship or marriage, text messages can also be used as a way to court new partners.  Did you just recently get the phone number of a nice and attractive man or woman at a bar or party?  If you did, send them a flirty text message.  For many, sending a text message is a lot easier than placing an actual phone call.  When first making contact, be sure to use caution and your best judgment.  Do not go overboard or be too sexy or seductive.  There is a better time and place for these types of messages.  Speaking of that time and place, wait until after you have received a response back or until after your first real date.

As a recap, text messaging is a unique, fun, and creative way to improve your sex life.  If you and your partner own cell phones, start using them today.  You may be more than pleased with the results.  As a reminder, text messages can also be used to get the communication started in a new relationship.

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Having Sex After Having a Baby: Tips for Husbands

Has there recently been a new addition to your family?  If so, congratulations!  There is nothing more exciting or rewarding than becoming a parent. 

As rewarding and as exciting as it can be to be a new parent, you may want to start returning to your normal routines.  Depending on your relationship with your wife, that routine may have involved daily or regular sex.  Unfortunately, many men are disappointed to learn that their sex life is not going to be what it was like before, at least right away. 

If this is your first child, you may not be familiar with how sex after a baby works for women.  If that is the case, please continue reading on, as a few helpful tips are outlined below for your convenience.

Most importantly it is important to give your wife space and time.  She may not be ready for sex yet, emotionally or physically.  In fact, did you know that women need time to heal after having a baby?  Many doctors recommend waiting at least a month before having sex after giving birth.  With that said, your wife may be different.  She may be ready to resume intimacy sooner or later than the average, recommended time frame.

In keeping with giving your wife time, it is important to not have high expectations right away.  These expectations should also include more than just intimacy.  As previously stated, having a baby is exciting and rewarding, but it can also be very overwhelming for new parents, especially moms.  Late night feeding sessions and fussy babies may prevent your wife from wanting to initiate sex, as well as getting many of her daily tasks completed, like cleaning the house or having dinner prepared on time.

Speaking of which, if you want to improve the intimacy in your relationship and not just in the bedroom, be sure to help your wife out.  This may involve taking a late night feeding session with your new baby, doing the dishes, cooking dinner, and so forth.  Many new moms feel so helpless and overwhelmed immediately following the birth of a baby.  Do not let your wife feel this way.  The kind gestures of helping on your part may improve your relationship and in more ways than one.

It is also important to not push your wife to have sexual relations with you when she is uncomfortable or unready to do so.  As previously stated, it does take women time to heal after having a baby.  It is also important to take other factors into consideration.  Is your baby sleeping in your room?  If so, your wife may not feel comfortable being intimate then.  Your wife may also not be ready to hire a baby sitter or even allow a trusted relative to care for your child.  This means that a romantic weekend or night away is often out of the question.  Most new moms needs months or even longer before they are ready for this big step.

Since there is a good chance that your wife may not be ready to resume intimacy in your relationship, it is important to be patient.  Instead of dwelling on not having sex, work for it.  Use the time to “wow,” your wife all over again.  Do so with romantic gestures, such as preparing a nice dinner at home, flowers, and love notes.

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Experimenting in the Bedroom: Your Options Reviewed

Are you tired of having the “same ole sex,” with your spouse?  If you are, you may be looking for ways to experiment in the bedroom.  After all, experimenting in the bedroom has been successful for many other married couples and you may experience the same results.

As much as you may know that you want to spice things up in the bedroom, you may not know how you should go about doing so.  What is nice about bedroom experimenting is the options that you have.  There are so many for you to choose from.  Just a few of those options are highlighted below for your convenience.

Trying a new sex position is a simple, yet effective way to increase the amount of pleasure and that you receive from intimacy.  Does your current sex just involve you or your wife on top?  If it does, expand your horizons.  There are literally hundreds of different ways that you can have sex.  Starting trying them out today. 

Sex toys are another great way that you can experiment in the bedroom.  If you aren’t already using sex toys, starting doing so.  There are so many toys and accessories for you to choose from.  This means that something out there will be able to heat up your bedroom.  For privacy, as well as the largest selection of sex toys, consider shopping online.

Pornographic videos can also be used to heat up your bedroom.  Unfortunately, many men and women are afraid to bring porn into the bedroom, but you shouldn’t have to be.  For example, just because your wife has never suggested watching a movie before, it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t seek enjoyment or pleasure from them.  For the ultimate level of satisfaction, you and your partner should pick out a movie together.

In addition to full-blown pornographic films, there are also instructional sex videos available for sale and for renting.  Although these videos may not be romantic or seductive in nature, they can show you new ways to have sex.  As it was previously stated, there are a number of benefits to spicing up your sex positions.

The use of lingerie and sex costumes in the bedroom is another form of experimentation that you may want to try.  It is an approach that you may want to take if you or your partner want to start out slow.  If you are the wife, remember that there are costumes and pieces of lingerie that your husband can wear as well.  You don’t have to be the only one who dresses up.  In fact, you can and should encourage your husband to do the same.

In keeping with dressing up for sex, role playing can also help you bring new fun and excitement into the bedroom.  Role playing and costumes often go together.  For example, if you have a robe and a maid’s outfit, your wife can be the maid who carries on an affair with her boss, and so forth.  In fact, when it comes to role playing, you have so many different options.  Be sure to use your imagination.

As you can see, you do have a number of different options when looking to experiment in the bedroom.  There are also many more options that you have, including the addition of a third participant.  No matter which way you choose to spice up things in the bedroom, be sure to use your best judgment.  Make sure that your partner is a ready and willing participate.

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Experimenting in the Bedroom:  Should You Make a Change?

How is your sex life?  Does the thought of having sex with your partner get you revved up and excited?  If not, it may be time for a change.

For many couples, the thought of uneventful sex can be looked upon as a required task or a duty, as opposed to a period of enjoyable pleasure.  As relationships grow and expand in time, so should a couple’s sex life.  If this is not what is happening with your relationship, a change may be needed.  Unfortunately, many men and women believe that change requires a new sex partner, but that doesn’t have to be the case.  There are a number of ways that you can your current sex partner can experiment and bring new life into your bedroom.

It is important to know that there are many new bedroom techniques and tricks readily available for couples to try.  These new techniques and tricks may be just what your sex life and relationship needs.  Experimentation can come in the formats of both physical and emotional.  For more information on ways that you can bring new life into your bedroom, with the use of experimentation, please continue reading on.

Do you and your partner currently rely on the use of sex toys?  If not, you may want to give them a try.  Sex toys can make sex more fun and exciting.  In fact, did you know that they can also help to make you feel young again?  Toys are available for multiple uses.  Concerning these items, it is also important to remember that you don’t have to go into “kinky,” territory.  There are accessories, such as a new outfits, blindfolds, and massage oils that also fall into the category.
 
Experimenting in the bedroom can also involve trying a new position.  As for the benefits of doing so, a new intimate position tends to increases excitement and satisfaction levels.  Did you also know that it can increase the number of calories burned?  While we don’t always look at intimacy from the standpoint of exercise, it is an added benefit to take into consideration.  If you need ideas or suggestions, invest in a new Kama Sutra book.  Just remember that some positions look nice on paper, but they may be too difficult or unrealistic for you and your partner to try.
 
The use of romantic or pornographic movies can also be used as a way to experiment in the bedroom.  Before inciting intimacy with your partner, consider starting a movie.  Romantic and seductive movies can help to get you in the mood for what is about to come.  You may also get new fun and exciting ideas for the bedroom.  As for what you will find available for sale, subjects range from instructional sex movies all the way up to hard-core pornographic films.

Role playing can add new excitement to a sexual relationship that is in need of improvement. When role playing is involved, it is best to inquire about your partner’s desires and fantasies.  Ask your partner what kind of person or type of person they fantasize about.  If they don’t provide you with an answer, offer up a surprise.  Be sure to share your fantasies and desires with your partner as well.

The above mentioned ways are just a few of the many ways that you can revive your sex life.  Experimenting in the bedroom has proven successful for many couples and their relationships.  With luck, it may be able to do the same for your relationship.  With that said, it may be best to proceed with caution.

Before you implement these changes or ideas, discuss them with your partner. Do not make the mistake of assuming your partner will be “all game.”  To have a happy and healthy sex life, an open line of communication is important.  Comfort is also vital.  Intimacy should result in pleasure for both you and your partner, not discomfort or embarrassment.

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Do You Have a Happy Sex Life?  Signs That You May

Many couples are often curious about their sex life and how it compares to the sex life of others. In all honesty, you are able to determine, on your own, if your sex life is good, happy, and healthy.  With that said, there are some common signs that you may want to look for.  These signs, a few of which are outlined below, often signal a happy and healthy sex life.  Are you receiving the ultimate level of satisfaction?

Sign #1 – You Have a Healthy Relationship

Couples who have a healthy relationship use communication with each other and often.  They are able to let their partners know when something is bothering them. Each partner understands that their relationship involves two fully committed individuals.  Couples with happy and healthy sex lives often do not have unrealistic expectations or make excess demands on their partners.

Sign #2 – Experimentation in the Bedroom

Experimenting in the bedroom is another sign that you may have a happy and healthy sex life.  Of course, this does not mean that you and your partner have to become the next big adult movie stars, but experimentation can improve your sex life significantly.  It is also important to remember that experimentation comes in a number of different formats.  It can be something as simple as having sex at a different time of the day, in a different part of the house, or extended foreplay sessions. Fantasies and fetishes are fun and okay, but only if both parties agree to them.  Be sure to consult with your partner before going “overboard.”

Sign #3 – Sex is Given Freely

In many relationships, especially long-term relationships, sex can be seen as a chore.  This isn’t how it should be.  Sex should be something that you and your partner want, not a responsibility that needs to be fulfilled.  If you and your partner are open to both spontaneously engaging in the act, you may have a happy and healthy sex life.  When you have sex because you want to, as opposed to because it is your “job,” maximum benefit and pleasure is achieved.

Sign #4 – Sex Becomes a Regular Part of the Relationship

It is no secret that having an active sexual relationship can be difficult.  With raising families, working, and other common duties, sex can often take a back seat.  Another sign that you may have a happy and healthy sex life is if you don’t let your day to day responsibilities and duties get in the way of having sex.  Regardless of how busy you are, if you still find time to have sex with your partner, you have a healthy sex life.  Just be sure to remember that sex doesn’t have to be scheduled.  In fact, spontaneous sex can do wonders for a relationship.

Sign #5 – Sex is more than Just an Act

Contrary to what most people believe, sex is more than just having intercourse.  An important component of having a happy and healthy sex life is that of engaging in foreplay.  Foreplay can be something as simple as holding hands or giving a relaxing massage.  Love notes, kind gestures, and doing something that your partner may not expect on a daily basis are all easy ways to keep your partner interested in you, both emotionally and physically.  You have a healthy and happy sex life when the romance continues on long past intercourse has come to an end.

So, do you have a happy and healthy sex life?  If a number of the above mentions signs describes your relationship with your significant other, there is a good chance that you do. 

Even if you have a happy and healthy sex life now, it is important to remember that things may change.  Remember that as time passes, it may be easier to let sex impact your relationship negatively.  Be sure to always keep an open line of communication with your partner, especially where sex and their needs are concerned.

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Does Your Sex Life Need Improving: Signs That It May

Are you in a relationship?  If you are, are you currently happy, in terms of sex?  Of course, it is important to make sure that you and your partner get along, have a good time together outside of the bedroom, and do not argue, but intimacy should not be ignored.

To help you determine if your sex life needs improving, please continue reading on, as a few signs that it may are highlighted below.

You don’t have sex.  Not being intimate with your partner is a good sign that your sex life could use a makeover.  Before proceeding any farther, it is important to determine why you and your partner are not being intimate.  Do you not feel the need to be?  Is your work or family getting in the way?  Determining the route of your problem is the best way to fix it.

In keeping with not being sexually active, the same rules do not apply to you if you are not in a relationship.  If you are not in a relationship, but if you want to experience intimacy, there are a number of steps that you will want to take.  First, you will want to find someone who is compatible with you.  To do so, use an online dating service, a speed dating service, or ask someone that you know to set you up on a date.

If you do have sex, how often do you have it?  Not being intimate with your partner enough is another sign that your sex life may need improving.  When determining what is the appropriate amount of times to be intimate, you will find that it depends.  A number of factors, like your children and your work schedule, should be taken into consideration.  With that said, learn how to make time for intimacy, as it is an important component of having a healthy and happy relationship.

Another common sign that your intimacy may need improving is if the sex that you do have is dull, boring, and no longer exciting.  Once it becomes a chore to you or it seems like a responsibility that you must perform, action should be taken.  To have a happy and healthy relationship, intimacy is important.  With that being said, not just any intimacy will do.  You should get excited about going to the bedroom with your partner and you should end the event satisfied.

If you and your partner are growing distant, it could be a sign that your sex life needs to improve.  Why?  As previously stated, intimacy is an important component of having a healthy relationship.  Although a relationship should not revolve around sex, it should be an important part of it.  If you and your partner are growing distant, consider using the bedroom to make improvements. When you do so, you may end up seeing the rest of your relationship properly fall into place.

If any of the above mentioned signs or situations apply to you and your love life, you may need to make a few changes. The good news is that it is easy to go about doing so.  If you can’t seem to find the time to be intimate with your partner, make time, even if you must stay up later or get up earlier.  If your sexual encounters are dull and boring, consider experimenting.  A new position or the use of sex toys may be just what your relationship needs.

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Can Yoga Really Help You Have Better Sex?

Are you a woman who is looking to improve your sex life?  If you are, you may automatically start thinking of new ways for you to experiment in the bedroom.  Of course, trying new things will likely prove to be successful, but did you also know that there is a much easier and much more relaxing approach that you can take?  There is and that approach is called yoga.

So yoga and sex?  If you are wondering what the connection is, you are not alone.  Many women automatically think that there can’t be a connection there.  This is because exercise and sex often aren’t too activities that are used in the same sentence.  But, it is important for you to know that yoga can help you have better sex. 

In fact, do you have any idea how many people recommend yoga for improved intimacy?  A lot of people do.  These people include women, just like you, their sex partners, fitness instructors, and medical professionals.  If all of these people say there is a connection between better intimacy and sex, they must be right.

What it is important to remember is that being fit in general is likely to give you more self-confidence.  When your self-confidence levels are high, your satisfaction in the bedroom will automatically increase.  It will still actually increase even if the sex doesn’t change at all!  How amazing is that?

Practicing yoga and exercising in general can also give you a better awareness of your body.  This is important to having a good sex life.  You may notice things about your body when you do aerobics, yoga, or just stretch.  You can begin to better understand your body, its flexibility, and your limits.  This alone can help to improve your sex life.

The art of yoga relies on body awareness, body movement, and breathing.  Many experts claim that these three components are important to having healthy intimacy levels.  In fact, did you know that your sex life with yoga will improve even if it wasn’t your goal or the main purpose for you taking up yoga?  That is also pretty neat.

As previously stated, when you have better body awareness, you are more likely to enjoy sex.  Body awareness is one of the many foundations that yoga is built on.  Being aware of your body can help to give you a better image of yourself, which can, in turn, increase your sex drive and ignite passion.

As for the breathing of yoga, it is so much more than just taking a breath while sitting on the couch at home.  The breathing that yoga calls for actually helps to make your spine and your pelvis stronger.  What does this mean for intimacy?  It can result in better action and movement.  You may find yourself being able to have sex longer. Your ability to try new sex positions successfully also improves.

Despite the fact that yoga is often referred to as a “woman’s workout,” it isn’t.  More men are starting to enjoy yoga now than before.  Why?  Perhaps, it has to do with what yoga can do for your sex life.  After all, all men and women want to achieve maximum pleasure in the bedroom.  If your boyfriend or husband is one of those men, and they should be, convince them to try yoga with you.  You may very will find yourself going at it in the shower or heading to the bedroom immediately following a yoga session.

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Can Losing Weight Help Improve Your Sex Life?

Are you a woman who is unhappy in the bedroom?  If you are, there are likely a number of reasons for your unhappiness.  Despite the possibility of a number of causes, do you think that your weight may be to blame?  If you are overweight or obese, it may be. 

Since you now know that your weight may have an impact on your sex life, you may be curious what weight loss can do for you.  It is really possible to improve your intimacy with weight loss?  Unfortunately, the answer isn’t always the same, as it tends to vary.  Weight loss and its impact on your sex life will honestly all depend on you and your own personal situation.

For starters, many women make the mistake of believing that their lost weight resulted in better sex.  It can, but did you know that many women are just deceiving themselves?  Being intimate with your partner may feel better and result in more pleasure, but it honestly may be due to an increase your self-confidence levels.  Women who lose weight do see an increase in self-confidence.  This extra confidence often allows women to enjoy it better.  What does this mean?  It means that the sex may be the sale ole sex you have been receiving for years, but it just feels better now.

Another impact that your ability to lose weight may have on your sex life is your ability to experiment in the bedroom.  Experimentation is a key to keeping your relationship “hot.”  One type of experimentation that you may want to try is a new sex position.  Has your weight previously kept you from being creative?  If so, now is your time to shine.  Show your partner that you now have moves that you never even thought of trying before.

In keeping with experimenting in the bedroom, it is important to know that experimentation comes in a number of different formats.  One other format is that of role playing.  As previously stated, weight loss gives may women confidence.  You may now have the confidence to have sex with the lights on, wear sexy lingerie, or a full-blown costume.  These large steps can do wonders for your relationship, both inside and outside of the bedroom.

It is also important to take your partner into consideration.  Unfortunately, this is not something that many women take into consideration.  If you were to lose weight, there is a good chance your partner will like the improvement.  Yes, your husband most likely loves and worships you now, but there is still something attractive about women who take steps to better themselves, especially in terms of appearance.  If you do decide to lose weight, let your husband know that you lost the weight for them and to better your sex life.  They will not only be proud of you, but they may also be turned on.

Since there is a good chance that your sex life will improve with weight loss, you may be interested in starting a weight loss plan today.  If so, go ahead and do so.  Use your need for improved intimacy in the bedroom as a source of motivation.  When you can envision yourself thin and in the bedroom having an amazing time with your husband, you may find it much easier to lose weight, as well as exciting.  Speaking of which, remember that a healthy diet and a strong exercise plan are needed.

The more weight you have to lose, the more your sex life may improve.  With that said, be sure to use your best judgment.  If you are average or thin, weight loss is not needed and can be dangerous.  If you are seriously overweight, consider talking to your doctor before starting a new diet or exercise plan.  Losing weight to improve your sex life is important, but don’t put your body at risk just receive extra satisfaction in the bedroom. 

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5 Ways to Improve Your Intimacy with Your Husband

Are you married?  If you are, you likely love your husband.  With that said, love isn’t always enough to keep a relationship going strong.  Intimacy is very important to having a strong, happy, and healthy relationship.

How is your life in the bedroom?  Do you think that your sex and intimacy can be improved?  If so, you may be nervous about discussing the subject with your husband.  After all, your husband may wrongly get the impression that they don’t satisfy you anymore.  If you are interested in improving your intimacy with your husband, there are still a number of other, different approaches that you can take.  A few of these approaches are touched on below.

1 – Date

If you and your husband have been married for a while, there is a good chance that you haven’t gone out on a date in a while.  Many married couples get to a point in their relationship that is commonly called “the comfort zone.”  This zone is not one that you want to be in, as your relationship may feel more like a friendship.  To prevent this from happening, ask your husband out on a date.

Although many wives believe that their husbands should do the date asking, you sometimes have to take hold of the situation yourself.  Now may be one of those times.  Choose an activity that is romantic, such as a romantic comedy for a movie or a nice restaurant.  This can help to spark a little bit of romance and passion in your relationship, which may lead to better and closer intimacy at home.

2 – Show Romantic Gestures

When it comes to “wowing,” in a relationship, women sometimes think that men should do it.  You will also want to “wow,” your husband, like you did the first time that you met.  One of the easiest ways to do so is by performing a number of romantic gestures.  When out shopping with your husband, grab their hand and hold it.  When walking by them in the house, give them a quick kiss.  Sending a love note to work with them is another romantic gesture that you may want to try.

3 – Be Sexy and Seductive

If your marriage enters into the above mentioned comfort zone, sex and intimacy may seem like a thing of the past.  If you do have sex, it may seem more like a responsibly, a chore, or even work.  To help reduce these feelings, be sexy and seductive.  Do not wait for your husband to initiate sex and do not ask if your husband is up for it first, just get right down to business.  Strip for your husband or simply just remove their clothes.  Snuggle next to them on the couch and just start massaging their whole body.  You may be surprised just how easy and effective it is to be sexy and seductive.

4 – Be Spontaneous

As it was previously stated, do not ask your husband if he wants to have sex and do not wait for him to start.  Instead, take matters into your own hands.  Whether you start with a little bit of foreplay or jump right into the intercourse, do so.  Your husband should like the surprise.  Also, remember that being spontaneous involves having sex at different times of the day, as well as in different locations of the house.

5 – Offer to Experiment In the Bedroom

To improve sex and intimacy it is important to know that a change can do you good.  You may want to suggest to your husband that you experiment in the bedroom or take them up on their suggestion to do so.  Remember that experimenting in the bedroom doesn’t have to mean getting an additional sex partner or doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable.  A new sex position may be just what your relationship needs.

As you can see, there are a number of easy ways that you can go about improving your intimacy with your husband.  So what are you waiting for?  Get started today.

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5 Easy Ways for Parents to Spice Up The Intimacy

Are you married?  If you are, are you also a parent?   If you are married and a parent, how is your sex life?  Depending on the age of your children and the size of your family, it might not be great.  Many parents wish that they had a better level of intimacy with their partner and on more occasions.  If you are one of those individuals, there are a number of steps that you will want to take.

When it comes to intimacy in a relationship, it is important to remember that more than the bedroom and sex is and should be involved.  Does your intimacy only get started when you climb into bed?  If so, there may lay the problem. 

If you are a parent, you will want to consider using the service of a babysitter.  This will enable you and your spouse to get out of the house and enjoy time alone.  In fact, you can even have a “real,” date.  Go to dinner and a movie with your spouse.  Unfortunately, many married couples find themselves entering into a comfort zone that results in their relationship feeling more like a friendship than a marriage.  Do not let your relationship get to this point.  Dating is a nice and easy way to prevent that from happening.

In addition to hiring a babysitter, rely on a trusted friend or family member.  What is nice about taking this approach is the comfort level.  Instead of picking a babysitter out of a phone book, you are entrusting the care of your children into someone that you know and trust.  This alone can result in you having a better time on a date.  You may also feel more comfortable leaving your children with a trusted friend or relative overnight, as opposed to an unknown babysitter.  What does this mean?  It means that in addition to enjoying a traditional date, you may also enjoy a nice, sexual night of privacy, possibly at a nice hotel.

In keeping with childcare that will allow you and your spouse to spend some romantic, intimate, and quality time together, consider approaching other parents.  Do you know the parents of your children’s friends?  If you do, consider making a monthly arrangement with them.  Let them keep your kids for one night and you can do the same for them.  This approach is nice, as you are likely to feel comfortable living your children in the care of another parent.  Also, remember that all parents find it difficult to seek privacy and intimacy.  You may be doing the other set of parents a huge favor.

As important as dating is and can be to your relationship, be realistic.  Not every night can be a date night.  With that said, there are still ways that you can be romantic and intimate with your spouse at home.  For example, sneak in a few hugs and kisses here and here.  When your wife is cooking dinner, walk up to her, rub her back, and plant a kiss on her.  When your husband is walking past you, stop him and give him a quick kiss.  A simple kiss is enough to show your partner that you care and want to be intimate with him, without making your children, who may be watching, feel uncomfortable or out of place.

Another unique and creative way to keep the romance and intimacy alive when you may be unable to have sex or go on a date is the use of text messages.  Do you and your spouse have and use cell phones?  If you do, send them a sexy and seductive text message.  Let them know that you can’t wait until they arrive home.  Even if your partner is sitting across the room from them, send them a quick message.  If you do not own or use a cell phone, know that a handwritten love note can be just as effective.

As you can see, there are a number of ways that you, as parents, can still have a happy and healthy sex life.  Implement a few of these steps to help keep your relationship and its romance alive and well.

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